Doing it Right by Abigail Steidley | Oct 31, 2013 | Increase your Creativity, Kindness and Confidence for You | 12 comments 12 Comments Marina on October 31, 2013 at 7:51 pm Thank you for sharing in such a candid way. There is such beauty in vulnerability. I needed to hear your message and I appreciate your willingness to share. This morning I was able to experience this, even before watching the video. I invited my daughter’s playmate over for trick or treating even though the house is messy and less than perfect. I did it anyway. I have not had any school friends over because the house not being perfect. Thank you!! Reply Abigail on October 31, 2013 at 8:05 pm Oh, so glad to hear this, Marina! Congratulations on doing it anyway and giving yourself this permission!!! Reply Linda Fennell on October 31, 2013 at 9:16 pm Your message is so wonderful, Abigail!! Was on a retreat this past weekend and boy did my inner – “I need to do everything right” person come up big time. Then I was beating myself up for still struggling with such things. So helpful to have you share – the message I’m getting is that the urge to do everything right doesn’t necessarily ever go away – it’s more about how do you want to respond to yourself – ‘do it anyway’ and ‘moments of learning’ – love that!! and I love that you showed up so authentically – make up … no make up – you are just beautiful! xo- Linda Reply Abigail on November 1, 2013 at 6:00 pm Linda – Yes! It’s just about noticing, watching, and seeing that habit. It may never totally vanish, (rats!) but you don’t have to get caught up in it. And thank you! You are so kind! Reply Melisa on November 1, 2013 at 3:50 pm This is so well timed for me. I just completed my first (half) marathon this past weekend. One surprise for me during the race was that I needed to cry several times during the event . . . this video helped reveal why this mental/emotional reaction came up instead of excitement and joy . . . I expected/wanted my body to be “better”/”healthier”/ “younger” . . . I was disappointed as 6,000 people ran past me as I walked at 4 mph instead of accepting my body where it is now and celebrating that I completed my first half marathon in 3 hours 18 minutes (ahead of over 500 other walkers) and raised over $3500 for the ASPCA . . . it is hard to accept my body, but I think you are right Abigail, all the little moments of insight lead us on a healthier mind-body path and that I need to focus more on that as I work to love myself as I am now more. Reply Donna on November 1, 2013 at 5:59 pm Love, love, love the video blog. It’s so nice to just listen and watch. Plus your smile always makes me happy. Also, I love the topic. I too am so afraid of failing. With your help I pushed through big bundles of fear with my retreat. Now I’m taking one fear at a time and just walking into it, gently, kindly and noticing that I’m not dying, and no one is judging me…quite the opposite. The more risks I take the more people compliment me. Didn’t see that coming. Thanks Abigail, as always when you speak from your heart, you seem to be speaking directly to me. Reply Abigail on November 1, 2013 at 6:01 pm Aw, so glad, Donna!!!! Reply Abigail on November 1, 2013 at 6:00 pm Melisa, SO glad you had this insight! It’s a great idea to love yourself exactly as you are right now, and focus on the amazingness of what you DID do!!! Reply Tracey on November 2, 2013 at 2:27 am Loved your authenticity and examples with “prepping” for the video and the sand dollar. “Doing it right” is something I struggle with on a daily basis. My job is in numbers so my perception is that a mistake is a failure and it also drives me crazy. Your idea that mistakes are just a way to learn is spot on. I have many unfinished quilting projects due to my perfectionism. This weekend I plan to work on at least one – with the hope that working will release the block. I am not sure what my “rules” are – hadn’t thought of that, but I’m sure I have many! Thanks for the inspiration! Reply Abigail on November 4, 2013 at 6:57 pm So glad to hear this, Tracey! Quilt away! I have a million half-crocheted scarves, myself. 🙂 Reply Rachel on November 11, 2013 at 3:28 pm Hi Abigail, I LOVE this video so much! You are beautifully natural and relaxed 🙂 I read your ‘connection not perfection’ post a while ago, and have found myself saying it to myself many times since. I used to have issues around controlling food (trying to eat ‘perfectly’) and this idea has helped me so much. Last week a friend baked me a thank you cake, and instead of going through the usual tedious “is it healthy?” / “is it too much sugar?” / “am I actually hungry?” rigmarole, I simply thought: “connection, not perfection” and totally knew that the only important thing in that moment was connecting with my friend, and her desire to show her gratitude to me through sharing her baking. So freeing and simple! Big hug of thanks for sharing your insights x Reply Rachel on November 11, 2013 at 3:33 pm Ha! I never usually leave comments because I think I’ll do it wrong, and I’ve just realised you didn’t personally write the ‘connection’ article. Oops. But hey, the thanks still applies for putting this inspiring stuff out here for us 🙂 Reply Submit a Comment Cancel replyYour email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *Comment Name * Email * Website Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment.