Remembering and practicing mind-body healing basics when chronic pelvic pain or other mind-body syndrome symptoms ramp up is what will get you the quickest relief from distressing symptoms. There are so many approaches to mind-body healing but they’re all likely to include the following four steps:

1. Awareness
2. Acceptance
3. Feeling
4. Take inspired action from your true and wise self.

Awareness

The first and most crucial step in mind-body healing basics is to be aware of what and how you are experiencing life. This is how you can get familiar with your habitual patterns, some of which could be contributing to your discomfort. This includes how your mind is acting, what you’re feeling physically and emotionally and how connected you are to your true and wise self. Discomfort will often distance you from your true and wise self. The way back to that empowered perspective is the first three steps of mind-body basics, which many of us unconsciously avoid. Once you have awareness of how you are actually experiencing your life, it helps you to be less identified with that way of being, helps you to understand your own patterns, and gives you the space and opportunity to change how you show up in your life so it’s more satisfying.

Acceptance

The second step is accepting what you’re already experiencing. This helps to let go of resistance to what is already present for you. Resistance to your experience can cause added stress that tends to make discomfort feel even more uncomfortable and can feed into additional layers of anxiety and/or depression. When you can accept or allow what you are already experiencing, it allows you to receive the messages from your mind, body, emotions, and spirit rather than trying to get rid of, get away from, or kill the messengers. Yes, the messages can be so uncomfortable, but when you can practice being more present in your body in present time and learn that it’s only discomfort and you won’t die if you feel it, that you can actually find relief on the other side, your habitual responses to avoid it will begin to shift and you’ll find your way back to peace more quickly.

Feeling

The third step is to turn towards and feel what you are feeling. Acceptance starts the process. Learning to stay with, hold space for, not resist, let go of controlling, trusting the process, finding a place of “okayness” in the midst of discomfort will let you experience what’s already present for you. When you experience discomfort by resisting it or reacting to it, it can trigger you to respond from a part of you, an unconscious habit or response rather from your true and wise self. Taking the time to focus your awareness on what you’re actually feeling helps you to get the messages your being is trying to convey. When you take the time to be and feel you will more easily access and receive the messages. Then the messenger, which is contained in the discomfort, can subside, relieving stress and allowing your nervous system to come back to ease.

Take Inspired Action

The fourth step is to reconnect with your true self, your adult self, the wise and skilled person you are today and then take action from that perspective rather than from a part of your triggered self who is just reacting. When we take action from the reactive self we are disconnected from the true self (higher self, wise self, soul, spirit) and responding from reactive, protective, survival habits that were learned and programmed into the brain during difficult times of the past, especially in childhood, when we didn’t have the benefit of the wisdom that comes with life experience and a mature nervous system. Once the distress of the mind activity, physical or emotional discomfort has peaked and begun releasing and symptoms improve, it’s easier to connect with and take inspired action from your fully connected true and wise self.

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Endorsed Coach – Gail Kenny

When I found Abigail I had been struggling with chronic pelvic pain (including pain in my lower abdomen, IC symptoms, yeast infections and myofascial pain) for over 20 years. Mind-body coaching was the last thing I needed to truly get my life back. I know first-hand the challenges of healing chronic pelvic pain and I’m well prepared to help you with your healing. I’m also a certified Martha Beck life coach and trained psychic.

I work with people in physical pain who have already tried all the normal solutions. I help them heal old dysfunctional habits of thinking and feeling. I teach them to relate to their body, emotions, mind, and soul in new ways, creating relief from underlying tension, healing pain from the inside out and getting back to living the life they want. Start with your free pain relief practice here.