Rest doesn’t usually get the credit it deserves. With our focus on achieving our goals, moving ever forward, and even exercising more/harder, it’s easy to overlook the power of rest. It’s easy to see how action takes us where we want to go. It’s hard to believe that rest can be just as powerful.

The body doesn’t do its healing in action mode. It requires rest to drop into healing. It’s logical to assume that a body in chronic pain probably needs more rest than it’s getting.  By this I mean real rest, where the nervous system releases the fight or flight response and “rest and digest” kicks in.

So why do we resist this rest? Why do we keep on pushing ourselves and ignoring this need?

I believe there are two main reasons.

First, resting the body requires us to connect with it more deeply than we do during an active, goal-oriented day. This means anything uncomfortable that is stored in there will most likely surface. By this I mean emotions we’ve been stuffing down, worries we’ve been trying to ignore, or intuitive hits we’ve been brushing aside. All the things, in other words, that might rock the boat.

Second, we think resting more means we’ll get less done, achieve less, or somehow fall behind in the race of life. We worry that we’ll be seen as lazy or less successful if we’re resting more. We have the misconception that action is where all the forward progress happens.

I’ve certainly resisted my share of resting, and still do. But now that I’m aware my first tendency is often to resist taking rest time, it’s easier to notice myself resisting and then gently ease into a little rest. When I find myself resisting rest, I ask myself if I could rest for a short amount of time, like thirty seconds. I make it so easy that there’s really nothing left to resist. Then I keep my promise to myself and don’t try to add on another thirty seconds, unless it feels absolutely easy and enjoyable.

I also keep a list of ways I enjoy resting with different levels of restful experiences. Some involve deep rest and the “rest and digest” response, while others are slightly more active. This means I can choose what type of rest feels do-able or right in that moment. My list includes everything from napping to listening to music or guided imagery to reading a book. (Want to check out one of my favorite deep rest techniques? Try Intentional Resting.

If I notice uncomfortable emotions rising into my awareness while I rest, I turn to my favorite mind-body tool: Basic Emotion Awareness . This allows me to feel what I need to feel instead of continuing to store it in my body.

Another thing I’ve done to help myself see the value of rest is listing the positive results I get from resting. (This doesn’t have to be fancy, but if you’re a journal addict like me, here’s an opportunity to buy a new one to add to your collection.) It’s as simple as writing down anything positive you notice from your resting sessions. For example, maybe you notice you feel more energized. Maybe you find it easier to think and focus, so you find yourself getting more done, more efficiently. Or maybe, like me, you find that rest takes on a magical quality and issues you thought would take much effort seem to solve themselves while you rest. After a few weeks of gathering evidence and writing it down, you’ll probably start to trust that rest truly is just as valuable as action.

Rest and action go in cycles. There’s a natural ebb and flow. Without rest, action is less potent. Without action, rest is less potent. We need both, equally. You’ll notice this natural cycle within each day and also in the bigger picture. You might need more rest for a month or two, then find yourself taking more action for a month or two. Let your body tell you what it needs, and develop your own awareness of your personal rest processes. I’d love to hear about your resting, so please share in the comments area below!

Need help resting? Get a dog. Watch how he does it.

Mark your calendar!  It’s time for another FREE CALL around here!

This one is MOST exciting and yet…restful.

Join me for a fantastic free call with Intentional Resting creator Dan Howard.  What is Intentional Resting?  It’s a simple, straightforward method of releasing mental and physical tension, being present, and feeling great.  It’s a PERFECT tool to add to your mind-body healing toolbox, because it is so effective at releasing the fight or flight response from your body.

I consider myself to be fairly mind-body proficient – maybe even a little mind-body nerdy!  I spend lots of time experimenting on myself to find ways to get even more relaxed, even more aware of my body’s messages, and even more present.  I read piles of books on this subject.  I consistently practice a variety of techniques.  And Intentional Resting is now at the top of my list!  I love it.  It’s extremely effective.  It’s one of those tools that will reduce pain in the moment very quickly, but used over time can be even more powerful.  Think preventative medicine.  I’ve been particularly busy lately with tons of fabulous, fun, and exciting opportunities.  I’ve used Resting to navigate the busy yet fun time without getting completely exhausted or crashing into adrenal burnout.  Resting is something that will help you on a variety of levels – physical tension/pain, emotional stress, an overactive mind, and more.

So – please join me as I interview Dan about Intentional Resting!  He will take us all through a Resting practice and explain how this helps relieve pain and create health.  This one is a must!

Intentional Resting with Dan Howard

Tuesday, May 25

6 PDT/7 MDT/8 CDT/9 EDT pm

To download the call recording, CLICK HERE.