I’m guessing it’s a lifelong project to live, express, and encompass your soul song to its fullest. There’s a process of gathering up new realizations and insights that show you more about your soul. There’s a process of letting go of old beliefs and perceptions that keep you from realizing various parts of your soul song. It’s a bit like a continuous mystery – you get to discover more about you, every day.

Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’ve collected enough elements of myself to sing my soul song on a whole new level. If I was standing on a stage, singing a melody before, now I am belting it out with new energy, more color, strobe lights, more notes, more volume…just more! It feels so good that I want to help you belt yours out, too.

To find out what belongs in your soul song, you can look back to childhood. I believe that kids sing a fairly pure soul song tune, at least at first. Growing into adolescence and adulthood might teach us to hide or hold back, but when we’re first born, I think we’re singing loud and clear.

As a kid, I loved many things. Creating stuff. Imagining. Putting on productions and generally leading creative projects. Playing music. Writing music. Reading books about magic. Reading books like Harriet the Spy – mysteries and spy stories. Learning instruments. Singing.

I remember spending long afternoons playing “Ode to Joy” on the piano ad naseum. I couldn’t get enough of the sound of melody and how much I loved making it happen.

I got lost at night in books that took me to magical places or taught me how to spy. I often practiced my spying on family members, who learned to look for me around corners and behind furniture.

I fell head over heels in love with American Girl Dolls. Their stories were so fascinating! All that history. I’d always found Barbie to be an utter snoozefest, but American Girl Dolls were – real.

I constantly pinned pillowcases to my head and pretended I had long, flowing, curly hair. When I was ten, I got my first perm and felt like a million bucks. That started a lifelong search for the perfect curl and wave for my naturally straight hair.

I spent weeks every Christmas writing and rehearsing elaborate productions in which I also performed, prodding my brother to practice his part and prepare for the big final performance.

All of these things are clues to how I can fully sing my soul song as an adult. Harriet the Spy taught me how to observe – both myself and others – without judgment and with curiosity. This is the foundation of my coaching, now. My love for American Girl Dolls shows up now as a love for play, a connection to my inner child, and a love for people’s stories. I am endlessly fascinated by people.

All the magic I learned as a kid makes me able to tap into magic as an adult, in a real and practical way. I can let energy create for me, instead of over-efforting and over-working. My musical self still writes music and uses music to connect to my inner wisdom, soul, and inner peace. And I’m most definitely still creating productions, which is my definition of being an entrepreneur.

Eventually, I finally found the perfect hairstyle and curling tool – the deep wave hairwaver (you can read more about this on the About page). My hair is an expression of me, and feels comfortable and fun. The funny thing is, ever since I started using the waver, women stop me wherever I go and ask how I curl my hair. I think this has less to do with my actual hair (though the waves are truly magnificent, if you’re a curl addict like me) and more about the way I feel with my hair waved. I feel so – me. It might seem trivial, but it’s actually not. Anything about you that expresses your soul song, be it a color you wear, a favorite shoe, or a deep internal sense of purpose and clarity, is worth celebrating and embracing.

In the end, being fully you and letting all these parts of your soul come together is what makes you magnetic. This is why letting yourself express your soul song is how you master the law of attraction. You shine bright, you pull what you love toward you, and you radiate a light that connects you to others.

Plus, it’s a whole lot of fun.

Ready to start consciously expressing your soul song? You can start today. Go back in time and think of one thing you absolutely loved as a kid. Then figure out how you can incorporate more of it, the essence of it, or some form of it in your life now. Get ready to feel like you’ve pulled in a piece (or pieces) of yourself that was asking to be included all along.

Start making a list. It’s a never-ending list that you get to keep adding to for the rest of your life. What makes you feel utterly you? What feels like an expression of your soul? What makes you tick? What do you love? Even better, what do you love about you?

I can’t wait to hear about your soul song! I’d love it if you’d visit the anamsong Facebook page and share one-three of your list items!

If it was when you actually were five years old, then this is an emergency. Go get a box of crayons, stat!

I have the luxury of enjoying the company of a five-year-old regularly. My niece, Emmy, is currently teaching me about living joyfully. She’s reminding me of all the things I forgot from my five-year-old days, and I have to say, I think these are really the essentials a person needs in life.

Here’s a summary:

1)     Play hard, then sleep hard. Preferably with your dog snuggled next to you.

2)     Eat what you love, even if it is mostly cheese with a side of cheese.

3)     Be amazed at yourself and proud of your accomplishments, even seemingly small ones.

4)     Cry when you need to cry.

5)     Be enthusiastically interested in whatever you’re doing now, until it’s time to switch gears.

6)     When it’s time to switch gears, switch.

Things I’ve done recently with my niece include dancing the hokey pokey, eating spaghetti, seeing the movie Tangled (sooooo awesome!), playing at the park, coloring, and shopping. Each of these adventures has been at least as useful as an hour of therapy. Kid fun is infectious, and it reminds me that play for play’s sake, whether I’m playing with writing chapters in my book or coloring in a princess coloring book, is possibly the most important thing I can do with my time.

Want to create more energy in your life? Want to feel better? Want to have a better relationship with your body?

Play.

I asked Emmy today how she has so much energy. She mulled it over for a minute. “I think,” she said, “kids just like to do stuff, and so they just keep doing it.”

That about sums it up. Do what you love. Play at it, don’t work at it. Love what you do. Love you. Life – all you really need to live it to its fullest potential is everything you knew when you were five.

So most of my clients are quite surprised when I assign homework that involves doing absolutely nothing.  They are astonished when I tell them NOT to focus on mind-body work for hours at a time.  They start to smile and relax when I suggest they do something outrageously fun.

The most surprising thing about mind-body healing is this: your most effective healing tool is your inner ten-year-old.  I imagine your inner ten-year-old as a playful being who has yet to start putting immense pressure on herself, who still loves herself and enjoys being in her own skin, and does what feels best to her in any given moment.

Maybe you never felt like that at age ten, so for you it might be your inner eight-year-old or five-year-old.  You might have to simply imagine what it would be like to just play, carefree, with abandon and joy, not caring one whit about what others think.  However you do it, entering into that space of freedom within your own mind and body – in other words, taking the pressure off yourself, focusing on what you love about you, and really tuning in to what feels right to you – is an enormous health creator.

You might not do it perfectly today.  Or tomorrow.  Or ever.  It doesn’t matter one bit.  Even if you can tune into the slightest element of that inner joy within all of us, you are creating health.  It will add up, I promise!

Today, pure, unabashed fun and joy might be resting.  It might be swimming.  It might be hanging out with a friend.  It might be coloring with crayons.  It might be breakfast for dinner or dessert for lunch.  It might be your favorite new book.  It might be shopping.  The only requirement is that you love doing it, want to do it, and have fun doing it.

My inner ten-year-old and I have had a fun week thus far.  Together we have run barefoot in the grass, played baseball, played with my dog, laughed, played music, started learning a new instrument, and taken a nap.  Nothing feels more freeing, more joyful, or more alive than tapping into this part of me.  Nobody has to approve.  I don’t have to do one thing right.  My entire focus is enjoyment and joy.  I’ve been playing my violin, which is something I used to do as a ten-year-old, just for fun.  Then, over time, studying to be a classical violinist and my thoughts about needing to play perfectly took away my enjoyment. Recently, I have rediscovered my passion for playing by giving myself permission to play whatever the hell I want, however I want to play it.  I now play Irish fiddle music, and I only play tunes I love.  It feels great to give myself this kind of freedom.

So here’s your assignment for this week:  Do something that feels like fun, for no reason whatsoever.  Do it however you want to, rules be damned.  Now really – is there any better homework than that?

And just for fun…here’s a video of me doing my homework! (Please feel free to share yours in the comments section below!)