I’m guessing it’s a lifelong project to live, express, and encompass your soul song to its fullest. There’s a process of gathering up new realizations and insights that show you more about your soul. There’s a process of letting go of old beliefs and perceptions that keep you from realizing various parts of your soul song. It’s a bit like a continuous mystery – you get to discover more about you, every day.

Lately, I’ve been feeling like I’ve collected enough elements of myself to sing my soul song on a whole new level. If I was standing on a stage, singing a melody before, now I am belting it out with new energy, more color, strobe lights, more notes, more volume…just more! It feels so good that I want to help you belt yours out, too.

To find out what belongs in your soul song, you can look back to childhood. I believe that kids sing a fairly pure soul song tune, at least at first. Growing into adolescence and adulthood might teach us to hide or hold back, but when we’re first born, I think we’re singing loud and clear.

As a kid, I loved many things. Creating stuff. Imagining. Putting on productions and generally leading creative projects. Playing music. Writing music. Reading books about magic. Reading books like Harriet the Spy – mysteries and spy stories. Learning instruments. Singing.

I remember spending long afternoons playing “Ode to Joy” on the piano ad naseum. I couldn’t get enough of the sound of melody and how much I loved making it happen.

I got lost at night in books that took me to magical places or taught me how to spy. I often practiced my spying on family members, who learned to look for me around corners and behind furniture.

I fell head over heels in love with American Girl Dolls. Their stories were so fascinating! All that history. I’d always found Barbie to be an utter snoozefest, but American Girl Dolls were – real.

I constantly pinned pillowcases to my head and pretended I had long, flowing, curly hair. When I was ten, I got my first perm and felt like a million bucks. That started a lifelong search for the perfect curl and wave for my naturally straight hair.

I spent weeks every Christmas writing and rehearsing elaborate productions in which I also performed, prodding my brother to practice his part and prepare for the big final performance.

All of these things are clues to how I can fully sing my soul song as an adult. Harriet the Spy taught me how to observe – both myself and others – without judgment and with curiosity. This is the foundation of my coaching, now. My love for American Girl Dolls shows up now as a love for play, a connection to my inner child, and a love for people’s stories. I am endlessly fascinated by people.

All the magic I learned as a kid makes me able to tap into magic as an adult, in a real and practical way. I can let energy create for me, instead of over-efforting and over-working. My musical self still writes music and uses music to connect to my inner wisdom, soul, and inner peace. And I’m most definitely still creating productions, which is my definition of being an entrepreneur.

Eventually, I finally found the perfect hairstyle and curling tool – the deep wave hairwaver (you can read more about this on the About page). My hair is an expression of me, and feels comfortable and fun. The funny thing is, ever since I started using the waver, women stop me wherever I go and ask how I curl my hair. I think this has less to do with my actual hair (though the waves are truly magnificent, if you’re a curl addict like me) and more about the way I feel with my hair waved. I feel so – me. It might seem trivial, but it’s actually not. Anything about you that expresses your soul song, be it a color you wear, a favorite shoe, or a deep internal sense of purpose and clarity, is worth celebrating and embracing.

In the end, being fully you and letting all these parts of your soul come together is what makes you magnetic. This is why letting yourself express your soul song is how you master the law of attraction. You shine bright, you pull what you love toward you, and you radiate a light that connects you to others.

Plus, it’s a whole lot of fun.

Ready to start consciously expressing your soul song? You can start today. Go back in time and think of one thing you absolutely loved as a kid. Then figure out how you can incorporate more of it, the essence of it, or some form of it in your life now. Get ready to feel like you’ve pulled in a piece (or pieces) of yourself that was asking to be included all along.

Start making a list. It’s a never-ending list that you get to keep adding to for the rest of your life. What makes you feel utterly you? What feels like an expression of your soul? What makes you tick? What do you love? Even better, what do you love about you?

I can’t wait to hear about your soul song! I’d love it if you’d visit the anamsong Facebook page and share one-three of your list items!

There was just one, tiny problem.

I wasn’t listening to my soul. Oops. I am really, really good at suppressing my true feelings and not listening to my inner-most guidance. This is why I focus on the practice of trusting and following my own inner wisdom so much. I can so easily forget this and barrel forward, ignoring important signals from inside myself.

I’ve been down this road before, of course. Many years ago, my body had to wake me up to this pattern of ignoring myself by literally immobilizing me with physical pain. I grudgingly began to listen to its messages and actually tune in to myself. Searing pain in one’s privates is most definitely motivational. Once I realized what my body was trying to get me to do, I started down the arduous and yet incredibly rewarding path of learning to like and love both myself and my body.

Yet, like any relationship, my relationship with my body and self is always evolving. Just when I think I’m pretty darn tuned in, I find a whole new layer of awareness I had no idea was there. To be honest, I think this actually delights me. How endlessly fascinating it is to never be done discovering new truths, depths, and information about one’s self! It’s not always comfortable. It’s not always a walk in the park. However, the rewards of going deeper, being willing to surrender to new levels of personal truth, and being ridiculously honest with yourself are absolutely worth it.

As usual, my body helped me out last year. It took on the miraculous and amazing project of nurturing a child inside it. As soon as I became pregnant, I became a mother. Wild hormones raced through my body, and I felt the urge to act like a grizzly bear with her cub, even though said cub was not even born yet. One day I took my niece to a movie and nearly murdered a woman who spoke rudely to her.  Quite suddenly, a new me was born. Mother Bear was awakened.

When I miscarried, the mother inside me did not go away. She remained. And something really spectacular took place. She nurtured me. She taught me even more about being compassionate with myself, setting boundaries, saying no, and treating myself with the same kind of honest, powerful mother-bear energy I would use for my child.

I got really honest with myself. I changed everything that wasn’t feeling right. I made new business decisions and decided to focus on my individual business and do less collaboration. I hired help in my business. I got inspired to create a whole new body of mind-body tools to use with my clients, my coach trainees, and myself. (I’d road tested them during my grieving process, and they really helped.)

Why am I telling you all of this? Because it just goes to show – this process of tuning in to your body, emotions, and soul is never done. It’s okay to be on this journey for a lifetime and never be perfect at all of this. Because you just can’t underestimate the power of taking a few moments to check in with your body, emotions, and soul. There is always something new to learn. There is always a new layer of deep peace awaiting you, right across the swamp of discomfort.

So, here I am again, one year later, sitting at my desk and preparing the new Mind-Body Coach Training.  I was seriously kidding myself when I thought I wouldn’t do another one. I love training coaches. I love watching them go out and use mind-body tools with their clients. I love watching them transform their own lives as they go through the training. It’s probably my favorite thing to do, above all else.

I’m also writing a new audio/visual product that will allow you to deepen your own mind-body process. I’m getting a whole new website built, and it’s completely different from what I thought it would be. I’ve also been hired to run Martha Beck’s Life Coach Training.

Nothing – not ONE little thing – looks like I thought it would when I envisioned this year. Everything – every SINGLE little thing – feels fabulous and perfect now. What if I hadn’t trusted myself? What if I hadn’t listened when my body asked me to?

I might not be in this moment, doing all these things I love. I might not know myself this much more. I might not have let my soul really sing, like it is now.

But I did it. I did listen. I paid attention to discomfort. I tuned in, even though there was pain, grief, sadness, anger, and fear. And now I AM here, in this moment. This is why it’s all worth it. This is what my soul was guiding me toward. Every time I go through this process in a big way, it turns out like this. Every time I tune in to myself in little ways, throughout the day, it turns out like this. It’s better than good. It’s more delicious than any delicacy. It’s challenging, engaging, and interesting, to be willing to live wide-awake like this. What can you learn from yourself, today, for you?