Most of us are not hoping to wake up every morning and feel intense panic or desperate fear. If we could ask for anything, we’d probably ask for peace. Peace for others, peace for the entire planet, and peace within ourselves. Yet, when we face health problems and physical pain, peace seems impossible. Fear and… Continue reading Letting Fear Drive
Category: Kindness and Confidence for You
Pain: The Messenger
After years of struggling with physical pain and other uncomfortable sensations such as vulvar burning, rawness, and itching, I felt exhausted. I was so sick of pain I wanted to give up, somehow, or run away. I longed to jump out of my own skin and just escape. I was going crazy dealing with the… Continue reading Pain: The Messenger
The Crazy Woman Syndrome
When I was 19, I started having very strange bladder problems. I noticed I always felt like I needed to urinate, and yet I never felt as though I could quite empty my bladder. I woke up several times a night to use the restroom. Sometimes I had to sit and wait on the toilet… Continue reading The Crazy Woman Syndrome
Calling all Perfectionists and Overachievers
I’ve been noticing a trend lately while working with women suffering from health issues. I coach women with pelvic pain issues of any variety, and I can’t help but notice some commonalities. I am no longer surprised when I hear person after person describe herself as a perfectionist, an overachiever, a type A personality, an… Continue reading Calling all Perfectionists and Overachievers
It’s Perfect
Today my “What If” post is being featured on Sandy Robinson’s blog, Fighting Fatigue. Take a look at her fantastic site! In Martha Beck coaching, we coaches have a question we love to ask our clients. When they are facing a something they find unpleasant or frustrating, we ask, “Why is this experience perfect for you… Continue reading It’s Perfect
What If
I recently coached a client through a hysterectomy, working on her fears about the surgery, her worries about anesthesia, and her concerns about her doctors. Health crises bring surges of emotion into our lives, and if we don’t know what to do with all these emotions, we run the risk of making the experience much… Continue reading What If
Being Grateful
When I was in the midst of my physical pain and emotional turmoil, I saw an Oprah show where the guest was talking about feeling grateful for experiencing illness. I can’t remember now what illness this person suffered from, or what the whole show was about, but I do remember how very annoyed I was… Continue reading Being Grateful
Saved by my Inner Healer
My Inner Healer (see previous posts) and I became very good friends after my first appointment with the breathing and relaxation instructor, Kathleen. It turns out deep breathing is a fantastic way to start listening to your Inner Healer, which is why I began mentioning it a few posts ago. Breathing is magical. It stops… Continue reading Saved by my Inner Healer
Message from my Inner Healer
After I had been to see a vulvovaginal specialist for my interesting mix of vulvar dysesthesia, vulvar vestibulitis, pelvic floor syndrome, and interstitial cystitis, I had a complete meltdown. I really thought this doctor would save me from the nightmare and give me my life back. I had suffered an allergic reaction to a yeast… Continue reading Message from my Inner Healer
Finding Your Inner Healer
In Martha Beck’s book, Finding Your North Star, she discusses the concept of the essential self. Basically, your essential self is the calm, peaceful, wise you who knows exactly what you need in every moment of your life. When you feel flashes of intuition, you are hearing the voice of your essential self. When you… Continue reading Finding Your Inner Healer